The Purpose and Benefits from the Therapeutic Relationship

“Our minds are not created alone; they are co-created. 
Our nervous system is ready to be taught by other people’s nervous systems, which transforms us”. 

Daniel Stern 
Psychologist

Being attuned to, is important when attending therapy/counselling.
To be empathised in a meaningful way, is required both in qualitative and quantitative ways, assisting in the recovery toward emotional, psychological and physiological wellbeing.

The purpose of the attuned therapeutic relationship assists in the laying down of new neurological connections to the brain.  This process supports you to connect inner thoughts to emotions and help make sense of your experiences that support meaningful change.

The development of an interpersonal exchange is established in the relationship over time, resulting from the safety and security experienced with and toward the therapist.   The therapist stays attuned to your moment by moment experience in the “here and now”, an invaluable interaction for personal transformation.
 
Of course this can create a certain amount of anxiety and/or joy.  It can leave positive or challenging experiences in the therapeutic relationship in that moment.  These experiences provide you with a learning opportunity to re-engage and become involved in the repairing of these difficulties with “another person”, in this instance the therapist, after a disturbance or a shift has occurred in the exchange.
 
The security gained in the relationship will help you regulate difficulties experienced in communication.  It will also support you to gain a higher capacity to tolerate emotional distress and move forward in empowering and energized ways.

New and positive experiences are always being created, assisting you with the internal and inter-personal changes you’ve hoped for.  Therapy therefore becomes the learning ground of recognising and experiencing your strength to safely express, powerful and overwhelming emotions and thoughts that you may not have been able to do so in the past.  

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Tess Tokatlidis, General Counsellor / Psychotherapist
Associate Member of AASP, Dip Somatic Psychotherapy,
Specialist Relationship Therapy R.A., Ass. Dip. Welfare Studies
T. 9639 3875; 0401 902 702; E. tess@counselcc.net.au

Appointments may also be made online at:
http://appointment.counselcc.net.au.